The society we live in screams the fact that kids are an inconvenience. Again and again and again. It’s not just in the media, but in the every day decisions we make as families. Even in the adventure world – anything that tends to slow us down is limited or passed on (to daycare, to a friend, etc.) We’re slowly spinning in a “Me, Me, Me” world, and it’s really hard to break out of that. It’s about accomplishments and successes and checking off the “list of life”. It’s so easy, thanks to social media, to see what others are doing and want a part of it. The grass is always greener. Always.
Often when are in Yellowstone, we talk with people who left their kids at home because they didn’t think they could hack it. They (the adults) were planning to unplug too much, hike too far, spend too much time in the car, travel too long, etc. While I am 100% for taking some kid-free time, I strongly believe that it’s what you do WITH your family that makes the lifelong advances in happiness. Of course traveling without kids is easier, but I have yet to meet someone who doesn’t wish they would have brought their kids after all.
Based on the changing weather and how I felt the day afterwards, this will most likely be our last long hike/summit as a family of 5. God-willing, Baby #4 will be joining us in early March.
Yes, we planned the baby. Yes, we are very excited. And no – we won’t be slowing down much (at least not any more than we did with the other 3 as newborns and throughout pregnancy).
While I’ve heard much more harsh reactions, I’ve gotten plenty of, “WOW! You sure will be busy!”
Yes, we certainly will. But, we actually already ARE. And adding another baby to the mix isn’t going to change a whole lot as far as that is concerned.
And really – there isn’t any other sort of “busy” I would rather be. My kids make me a better person. They force me to become more selfless, more loving (in the truest form of the word), more contemplative about my life. They challenge me (oh do they challenge me!), they make me laugh, they make me feel as though I am living for something worth while. They make me crazy, realize how far I need to grow in patience, and want a day off. But, I really and truly know I wasn’t half the woman I am today 10 years ago. My life is richer, my love is deeper.
To be quite honest, this pregnancy is kicking my butt. Coupled with the fact that my husband had a very busy wild land fire season, and therefore I was solo parenting most of the summer, I am completely worn out. So, I’m also working hard to simplify. To cut out what I don’t need, to keep my family in my focus and not be swayed by all these “great opportunities”. Those opportunities will continue to happen intermittently throughout my life – I won’t get the time back with my family.
I’ve whined a lot. So, I am working on being grateful. For this baby, for this opportunity, for the love that continues to grow.
I’m not one of those people that pukes the whole nine months, but I’ve certainly not felt myself. I’m not motivated, I don’t hardly want to go outside, and I’m trying to cut myself a lot of slack. I don’t feel well and have been working hard to distract myself from that as well as I can. This too is a season of life…and an opportunity to grow.
In the coming months, you’ll see plenty of posts like we’ve been doing for years now. You’ll also see some pregnancy-specific ones. Sometimes when I am NOT pregnant, I forget how I truly feel when I am. Maybe that’s why I keep on having kids….ah the gift of mommy memory loss!
And yes, as a family, we will be continuing to get out as much as we can. But, I am listening to my body and being very intentional about our time (which sometimes means I am very intentional about just taking a nap and letting my kids watch T.V. for 30 minutes).
We’re keeping it real here, folks. This is real life, real challenges, real realities, and a real journey. We’re thankful for good thoughts and prayers and that you’re joining through all these seasons of life!
Cheers to families of ALL sizes…and many more adventures to come!
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